Ask and You Will Receive
When I was 22 and pregnant my oldest son, nobody handed me a How To Raise Boys parenting guide….
Back up a few years to my high school days –
I was probably 15 years old. My parents had divorced when I was 11. My mom was raising my sister and I on her own. I was an avid synchronized swimmer. My team spent many hours in the pool at least five days a week. During that time there were few guys that competed in the sport and our team consisted of only girls.
One afternoon, my mom, sister and I were driving in the car on our way to practice. I don’t remember the topic of the argument that was taking place between us, but I remember screaming my final argumentative statement: “When I grow up I will NEVER have girls!! Only boys!! I’m so sick of all the DRAMA!!!”
Well here I am over 20 years later. A mom of three amazing boys who keep me on the GO at all hours of the day. They surprise me with new adventures in motherhood on a regular basis and no two days are ever the same.
I recently heard someone say, “Time flies, but you’re the pilot.”
This couldn’t be more true. It seems like yesterday when my oldest, Kole, was born. This year he started high school. I can’t think of any other moment in my life that has made me feel like I let go of the reigns of time. Baby Henry just turned two and Billy is four years old. He will start Kindergarten soon. Yes, time does fly, but WE get to make the choice of how that time is spent!
When I’m passionate about something, I tend to obsess and gathering all the information I can on the subject. I’m most passionate about my boys and motherhood. I’ve bought every book, listened to countless podcasts, and search the internet for articles that may help me relate to whatever my boys might be going through at their current developmental stage. Since I grew up surrounded by girls, the boy world is a whole new journey. I’m interested in the challenges that boys face today and how we can make this world a better place for them to grow up in.
I was raised to believe that I could do anything that I put my mind to so naturally providing the best life for my boys is incredibly important to me.
What are the biggest challenges you face when raising boys? What are the biggest rewards?
Currently one of the biggest battles that we face is the battle with screen time. As I type on this computer I think about how nice it would be to send the TV to the dump and cancel the cable. It seems like everyday is the same argument. It drives me crazy...
In the face of fending off the TV I try to immerse the boys in countless books and creative projects. Rather than watching any TV before daycare/school, we cuddle on the couch with a few books or turn on some music and sing and dance. This reward and payoff is that we are spending quality time together. Curling up with my 35 lbs two year old who wants to cuddle all the time is quality time and I want to soak up every moment! I know there will come a day when he doesn’t want to cuddle anymore… So I’m filling up my ‘cuddle tank’ as full as I can with the time that I have.
I’ve been doing a lot of research on screen time and the effects that it has on children and adults. I will be sharing that with you in a further post. It’s an issue in our house and I’m almost positive that I’m losing the battle. We need intervention!
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Have a great Wednesday!