Challenge: Go online to your Instagram or Facebook and search #fitmom. Countless images are displayed of everyday moms who are devoting their time to taking care of themselves, but where do they find the time to do such things? Between working corporate jobs, running businesses, chasing children, changing diapers, making dinner, bath time, the never ending laundry, and that moment in the 24-hour day where we practice that thing they call “sleep”, where do we find time to exercise and take care of our wellbeing? For years I’ve lived by this idea that we, as mothers and women, are the bottom of the pyramid. We are the foundation and our family builds upward. If we don’t take the time to take care of ourselves, then how can we possibly take care of those around us? We are nurturers by nature. It’s in our blood to take care of the world around us. But it’s just not possible if we don’t take care of ourselves. The results leave us with feeling overworked, under appreciated, and completely exhausted.
The biggest question that I hear from other moms is, “Where do you find the time?” I play it off like it’s no big deal and I’ve totally got it all under control, but that’s far from the truth. I hide behind the idea that I know what I’m doing, I’m scheduled, organized and winning the game of life. Little is known that most the time I feel like I’m swimming in utter chaos, trying so hard to keep up with everything; working so hard and getting nowhere. So I try diligently to give myself grace… but I’m not very good at that either. I tend to be extremely hard on myself, striving for perfection, and I’m often left feeling like I’m failing. It’s a constant practice to remind myself to focus on me, the children and our family so that I do not miss them growing up. I don't want to miss the little steps in life that are most important. This is not an easy task. It takes practice. Juggling three balls is hard, but juggling 15 is nearly impossible. Not many people can do that and yet we pretend that we can.
What I’m learning, is that the key to finding time and juggling it all is to be diligent in your daily routine and schedule. I’ve started treating my life as I would treat my business and corporate job. I schedule EVERYTHING! Even showering! That may sound completely crazy, but those of you moms and women out there know exactly what I’m talking about. If you don’t work showering into the schedule, the day will run right past you and you’ll find yourself crawling into bed thinking, “Crap! I totally need to shower!! What the hell is wrong with me?!?!” HAHA!
So I’ve started scheduling everything in my day. From when I wake up to when I go to bed. This keeps me on task and helps me focus on what’s happening right now. I don’t get sidetracked [as much] and I put 100% into each of the to-do’s that are on my schedule. This forces me to focus on the present moment. I’ve scheduled alerts in my iPhone and iPad. DING!! I’m alerted to break away and move onto the next task rather than spending too much time on just one thing. On my lunch, I go outside and take a walk; refreshing my body and mind. I schedule time to read, even if it’s only for 15 minutes. I schedule time to prepare my grocery list for the week so that my family eats healthy meals. I’ve blocked out time, after work and I put down my phone, close up the computer and play with my kids. I’ve scheduled in 30 minutes to do something active and move my body daily. I’ve even put an alert in my phone to pray…. I feel guilty admitting that, but we forget to pray and give thanks until it’s too late and we’re pleading for help [been there].
Scheduling out all of these little things makes such a difference! It sounds neurotic and a bit extreme, but I promise you that when you take time for the little things [and the big things] you go to bed knowing that you've made the very best of your valuable time. Give it a try and let me know what you think! I would love to hear how you juggle it all too.
Cheers to loving life, living passionately and living with purpose.